I know today is Breast cancer awareness month and there will be a lot of pink ribbon all over the place. Fine, I guess. I don't understand it. It's a cancer and all cancers suck. Diseases suck in general. We all hate them and no body wants one. "I hate cancer".....well, who like cancer?
I don't understand the pink ribbon thing. I know it's for breast cancer awareness, but at this point, who isn't aware of breast cancer? I think it went from awareness to "HEY, LOOK AT ME, I CARE ABOUT SOMETHING....LOOK AT ME LOOK AT ME". Or maybe it's about caring about a certain body part. Maybe people like boobs so much that they don't want to say it and uses the pink ribbon to say it. "I care about breast cancer"....No, you just like boobs and you don't want to have a woman lose them and refocus on something else like their mind. I think it's now an advertizing plot to talk about sex by thinking about breasts. It the new way to think about sex and make people buy a product that has the pink ribbon.
What I find weirder is that women care about breast cancer more than other cancers. Now from I'm gathering from women, they don't like being viewed as a pair of breast. If that is the case, why do they focus their mindset on a cancer that aim to the body part that they don't like being known for? I would think that if they don't like being known for their boobs, they wouldn't want to care more about this kind of cancer. Also, what makes a women is the idea that they can reproduce. Childhood is what make a woman what she is. I might be wrong about this, but considering how women look at menopause and the idea of losing the ability to have kids, maybe, I don't know. So with that in mind, should women focus more of ovarian cancer? Ovarian cancer kills only women and kills 15,000 women a year. Grant it, it's only about a third of breast cancer, but I don't see the ribbon for ovarian cancer near as often as the pink ribbon. I've rarely seen a ovarian cancer ribbon on a package at a store, but the pink ribbon is everywhere.
Then again, what do I know.....I'm a moron, and waiting for Moron awareness month.
Monday, October 3, 2011
Saturday, July 30, 2011
Why we men are this way (Well, my theory anyways)
It's been a while since I've done a new posting so I'm long overdue. Quite a few female friends of mine complain about women cheating and want to know why. I got a theory about this. Let me state before I got on that I've never been in a relationship before and I'm basing this idea from other men and biology.
Throughout the history of man, men has the responsibility to populate the planet. Us population control make us the dominate species on the planet. So men, in essence, want to.....well, fuck. Men like to have sex, it's who we are. Some more than other, but in all of us, men just want to have sex. Women, on the other hand, don't want to have sex, or at least not at the level as men. Women are the caregiver of the kids that men help bring into this world. Sick and wrong, yes but it's the way of the world. The irony is that women get praised for doing this while men get chastised for doing what is in out nature.
Keeping that in mind, men don't view sex the way women do. Women, in general, have a harder time separation love and sex where as men can. Men can have sex with women just for sex more than women can. Is it wrong, that kind of depends on which viewpoint you're looking at. If you offer a man sex with a beautiful women, he'll have a hard time saying no while women can say no at a drop of a hot if offered sex with a handsome man. Then again, women have been offered sex since their teen years and have an easier time to say no. Because of this, when a woman offers sex with a man, he's is going to look at the situation from a different viewpoint than a woman would, even if he's in a relationship. Men are just seeing sex while women see a new love interest. It's not at swipe on the women, men just want to have sex with the other woman. It's not because the she's younger or prettier or thinner or bustier, it's because she's new. She's different, she's a new person.
So at the end of all this, I'm starting to think this notion of a relationship is something women created. Woman force men out of their nature and conformed to their rules. It's kind of not fair to do that to men. When we do good, women get the credit, when we do bad, it's our fault. Men get neutered into this idea and are force into this or be lonely (unless you're rich, powerful, or handsome) Maybe, just an idea, let your man sway a little in the sex part. Allow him an outside fling like once a year just to get it out of his system. It's not cheating, it's biology in action.
On the flip side of things, if you are in a relationship, both side have made a decision that both members of the paring are to be faithful to each other no matter what, sort of like a contact. If one person breaks the agreement once, you can make adjustments. If it continues, the verbal contact is broken and can be terminated. Of course that all depends on what you decided the limit are. If you're cool with "They can be with someone once in a blue moon" then you're good. If it's "No one but me" and both agree with it, then both side must abide by the rules set up.
Then again, what do I know. I'm just a moron, and I am single.
Throughout the history of man, men has the responsibility to populate the planet. Us population control make us the dominate species on the planet. So men, in essence, want to.....well, fuck. Men like to have sex, it's who we are. Some more than other, but in all of us, men just want to have sex. Women, on the other hand, don't want to have sex, or at least not at the level as men. Women are the caregiver of the kids that men help bring into this world. Sick and wrong, yes but it's the way of the world. The irony is that women get praised for doing this while men get chastised for doing what is in out nature.
Keeping that in mind, men don't view sex the way women do. Women, in general, have a harder time separation love and sex where as men can. Men can have sex with women just for sex more than women can. Is it wrong, that kind of depends on which viewpoint you're looking at. If you offer a man sex with a beautiful women, he'll have a hard time saying no while women can say no at a drop of a hot if offered sex with a handsome man. Then again, women have been offered sex since their teen years and have an easier time to say no. Because of this, when a woman offers sex with a man, he's is going to look at the situation from a different viewpoint than a woman would, even if he's in a relationship. Men are just seeing sex while women see a new love interest. It's not at swipe on the women, men just want to have sex with the other woman. It's not because the she's younger or prettier or thinner or bustier, it's because she's new. She's different, she's a new person.
So at the end of all this, I'm starting to think this notion of a relationship is something women created. Woman force men out of their nature and conformed to their rules. It's kind of not fair to do that to men. When we do good, women get the credit, when we do bad, it's our fault. Men get neutered into this idea and are force into this or be lonely (unless you're rich, powerful, or handsome) Maybe, just an idea, let your man sway a little in the sex part. Allow him an outside fling like once a year just to get it out of his system. It's not cheating, it's biology in action.
On the flip side of things, if you are in a relationship, both side have made a decision that both members of the paring are to be faithful to each other no matter what, sort of like a contact. If one person breaks the agreement once, you can make adjustments. If it continues, the verbal contact is broken and can be terminated. Of course that all depends on what you decided the limit are. If you're cool with "They can be with someone once in a blue moon" then you're good. If it's "No one but me" and both agree with it, then both side must abide by the rules set up.
Then again, what do I know. I'm just a moron, and I am single.
Thursday, March 31, 2011
I love music
Music is amazing. We all love some form of music. Music has great power. It can make us happy, sad, mad, content. Music effect your head, your heart and your feet. Music can make us do dumb things, like dance. It can make us drive an extra minute or two.Think about it, when you see someone grooving in their car, you try to find the station that matches the rhythm of their dancing. Look how ofter we post music clips on our Facebook page or use a song lyric on our status line. Music is awesome that way.
One thing about me is that I love music, all kinds of music. Now, I find that this statement is one of the easiest things to say. It's so easy to say "I love all kinds of music". I hear it a lot, and it follow with a few types of music or an well known artist of a type of music. It's easy to name drop Johnny Cash or Eminem or even a Miles Davis. When I say I love music, I try to back it up better than just namedropping. I am willing to listen to as many types as I can. I can listen to anything. I heard so many types of music and I want to listen to more. I always say "try me". I used to love buying CD. I used to have a decent size collection, about 300. I always say that I want the kind of collection that make people see and say to me "Wow, you like this....Cool" and "Wow, you like this?!?" I'm funny that way.
Music is always a good way to get a conversation going. Mention a song or a band you like and you can get a vast array of agreement or disagreements. We see Top 10, Top 50 and Top 100 all time greatest song, artist, band whatever and that is a good way to get discussion started. They will never be a definitive all time best of anything because you really can't judge an art form, it's all subjective. One person good is another person bad. Someone should of been higher, someone should of been lower, take this band out, and why wasn't this band included. Then next month another top 100 of all time shows up and the conversation starts over again. Meh...what can you do?
I love going on YouTube and seeing comment about who sucks and who is great. Every generation has their targets that everyone loves to hate. We love reminiscing about what we though was good, even though those older than us though it wasn't that good and those younger don't see why we liked it. It goes back to our love of music and how it can take us back to a time in our lives that we fondly look back.
Then again, what do I know...I'm a moron, but at least I know that ICP sucks.
One thing about me is that I love music, all kinds of music. Now, I find that this statement is one of the easiest things to say. It's so easy to say "I love all kinds of music". I hear it a lot, and it follow with a few types of music or an well known artist of a type of music. It's easy to name drop Johnny Cash or Eminem or even a Miles Davis. When I say I love music, I try to back it up better than just namedropping. I am willing to listen to as many types as I can. I can listen to anything. I heard so many types of music and I want to listen to more. I always say "try me". I used to love buying CD. I used to have a decent size collection, about 300. I always say that I want the kind of collection that make people see and say to me "Wow, you like this....Cool" and "Wow, you like this?!?" I'm funny that way.
Music is always a good way to get a conversation going. Mention a song or a band you like and you can get a vast array of agreement or disagreements. We see Top 10, Top 50 and Top 100 all time greatest song, artist, band whatever and that is a good way to get discussion started. They will never be a definitive all time best of anything because you really can't judge an art form, it's all subjective. One person good is another person bad. Someone should of been higher, someone should of been lower, take this band out, and why wasn't this band included. Then next month another top 100 of all time shows up and the conversation starts over again. Meh...what can you do?
I love going on YouTube and seeing comment about who sucks and who is great. Every generation has their targets that everyone loves to hate. We love reminiscing about what we though was good, even though those older than us though it wasn't that good and those younger don't see why we liked it. It goes back to our love of music and how it can take us back to a time in our lives that we fondly look back.
Then again, what do I know...I'm a moron, but at least I know that ICP sucks.
Sunday, February 13, 2011
Valentines Day
So Valentines day is coming up, or past depending on when you read this. It's another holiday people either love or hate. I personally like it. Grant it, it celebrates an idea that we should practice every day. Most holidays are like that, they celebrate something we should be doing all the time. We should give thanks everyday instead of Thanksgiving, thank our moms on Mothers day, thank our fathers on Fathers day, and dress up and beg strangers for candy on Halloween.....OK, maybe not the last one. I personally like Valentines day for what it is. I like the idea of celebrating the idea of love and what love is and what love should be. What can I say, I'm a hopeless romantic. Well, I'm at least hopeless, so I'm halfway there .I've never had that person to celebrate it with, and I'm pretty sure I'll never will, so be it.
What I find funny is how many people say that they hate the holiday. Men hate the idea of spending money on a Hallmark holiday for little return. That does make sense. Think about it. men buy candy, cards, flowers, dinner, movie and jewelry for their significant other and in return, they hope for sex. That idea is funny because it kind of glorifies the idea that men like sex and women like the gifts. I've always heard that women like sex, but if women like sex, why do they make men jump through hoops to get it? Women get everything and all men get is the sex. Doesn't seem like a good return on investment to me. It's a woman's holiday, we can we do. Maybe it's the idea of making their S/O happy. Perhaps, but again, why spend the money for something you can get for little or no money. Perhaps men need their own holiday that make women go out of their way to make their men happy. There is sort of one now, but something official that can be written on a calendar or cards can be made celebrating it.
We dread this holiday, but couples still go through with it. Why? Most people hate it but still go through with it. I think people do it because, beyond all that we say and think, we still like Love. We love showing the world that we don't care about some ideas, but we do it because we like doing nice things to each other and that smile on the person we love. We love the hug and the kiss. We love that look in the person we love knowing that the person we're looking at feels the way we feel about them. We love that moment of being with someone you love and ignoring the rest of the world. It's not the end result of love making, it's the path of love in general.
I look at couple that are in love and to me, it's cool. That connection between two people and I wish I had that. I also look at people who lost love and remind them that they have had it, and it's better than not ever having it. Then I look at my mom. She lost the one love of her life and I can never understand the heart break of losing that person. To me, love is fantastic. We all want it, we will do anything for it, some treasure it, some waste it. You can't buy it, but we spend money for those words "I Love You". We jump though hoops for that moment. People should cherish it more, because there are some who don't have now, had it and lost it, and those who have never had it.
Then again, what do I know? I'm a moron.....and I'm single, ladies.
What I find funny is how many people say that they hate the holiday. Men hate the idea of spending money on a Hallmark holiday for little return. That does make sense. Think about it. men buy candy, cards, flowers, dinner, movie and jewelry for their significant other and in return, they hope for sex. That idea is funny because it kind of glorifies the idea that men like sex and women like the gifts. I've always heard that women like sex, but if women like sex, why do they make men jump through hoops to get it? Women get everything and all men get is the sex. Doesn't seem like a good return on investment to me. It's a woman's holiday, we can we do. Maybe it's the idea of making their S/O happy. Perhaps, but again, why spend the money for something you can get for little or no money. Perhaps men need their own holiday that make women go out of their way to make their men happy. There is sort of one now, but something official that can be written on a calendar or cards can be made celebrating it.
We dread this holiday, but couples still go through with it. Why? Most people hate it but still go through with it. I think people do it because, beyond all that we say and think, we still like Love. We love showing the world that we don't care about some ideas, but we do it because we like doing nice things to each other and that smile on the person we love. We love the hug and the kiss. We love that look in the person we love knowing that the person we're looking at feels the way we feel about them. We love that moment of being with someone you love and ignoring the rest of the world. It's not the end result of love making, it's the path of love in general.
I look at couple that are in love and to me, it's cool. That connection between two people and I wish I had that. I also look at people who lost love and remind them that they have had it, and it's better than not ever having it. Then I look at my mom. She lost the one love of her life and I can never understand the heart break of losing that person. To me, love is fantastic. We all want it, we will do anything for it, some treasure it, some waste it. You can't buy it, but we spend money for those words "I Love You". We jump though hoops for that moment. People should cherish it more, because there are some who don't have now, had it and lost it, and those who have never had it.
Then again, what do I know? I'm a moron.....and I'm single, ladies.
Wednesday, February 2, 2011
Gender roles?!?
As many of my friends know, I tend to look at the world differently from others. I don't see what people want me to see. I tend to ask questions more than other and I like to stoke the fire because sometimes it need to be built more. I have had arguments with people just to make people look at their situation from a different perspective. I lose more than I win, but at least I get my point across and I tend to learn from that.
This week I have had conversation with people in regards to gender roles and idea of what men and women should do. Now, before I start, let me set the groundwork on myself. I've never had a relationship before, so my viewpoint is from someone who hasn't been with a woman before. I don't understand this notion of "Because it's a man's job". I am assuming that since it involves a certain amount of labor, it's a mans job. I don't understand that. If a woman is strong enough to do the job and she wants to do it, let her. Also, some jobs are "a women's job". I guess it's because they involve household duties and the like. Again, if a man wants to do it, let him. If we stick to the ideas of "A man's job and a woman's job", we force ourselves to make those obligated to do a job that some else can do. "I don't want to watch the kids, you're the woman you do it!"...."You mow the yard, it's too hard for me". I've seen women mow the yard and men cook, that isn't a bad thing. We shouldn't force others to do a job because it's geared towards a gender. Also, if we force someone to do the job of their sex, we force ourselves to do a job because of our gender. "If I fix your pipes, will you make me food"?....."If I fix your car, will you give me some?". That idea is antiquated (at least in my 3 cent brain), and kind of dumb.
In the same arena as jobs, we have this notion that we can't hit women. The idea behind it is that women are weaker than men. There is some truth to that notion, but I don't think that it's the main issue. I believe that this notion of not hitting women is less about strength and more about bullying. People larger than other who hit other smaller are viewed as bullies. When a person hits a "weaker" person, it's the first person saying "I can do this because I am stronger than you." If both people were the same gender, we would think of it as bulling, if it opposite gender, it's wrong on a different level. Then we go into the issue of domestic violence. We also hate the man who hits the women, but we are looking at the issue for the wrong perspective. Instead of us looking it as a "Man hitting a women and that's wrong" we should look at it as "A man is viewing his significant other as an object". When a man hit his S/O, he is saying "I can do this because you're not a person, you're my property" That is why he gets away with it. Maybe if we stop looking at it as a "Man hitting a women" and start looking at is as "She's my property" we can help the man more. A man going to jail for hitting a women doesn't help him, getting a man into counseling, we can do more good.
Maybe that is how I see the world. Then again, I'm a moron, what do I know.
This week I have had conversation with people in regards to gender roles and idea of what men and women should do. Now, before I start, let me set the groundwork on myself. I've never had a relationship before, so my viewpoint is from someone who hasn't been with a woman before. I don't understand this notion of "Because it's a man's job". I am assuming that since it involves a certain amount of labor, it's a mans job. I don't understand that. If a woman is strong enough to do the job and she wants to do it, let her. Also, some jobs are "a women's job". I guess it's because they involve household duties and the like. Again, if a man wants to do it, let him. If we stick to the ideas of "A man's job and a woman's job", we force ourselves to make those obligated to do a job that some else can do. "I don't want to watch the kids, you're the woman you do it!"...."You mow the yard, it's too hard for me". I've seen women mow the yard and men cook, that isn't a bad thing. We shouldn't force others to do a job because it's geared towards a gender. Also, if we force someone to do the job of their sex, we force ourselves to do a job because of our gender. "If I fix your pipes, will you make me food"?....."If I fix your car, will you give me some?". That idea is antiquated (at least in my 3 cent brain), and kind of dumb.
In the same arena as jobs, we have this notion that we can't hit women. The idea behind it is that women are weaker than men. There is some truth to that notion, but I don't think that it's the main issue. I believe that this notion of not hitting women is less about strength and more about bullying. People larger than other who hit other smaller are viewed as bullies. When a person hits a "weaker" person, it's the first person saying "I can do this because I am stronger than you." If both people were the same gender, we would think of it as bulling, if it opposite gender, it's wrong on a different level. Then we go into the issue of domestic violence. We also hate the man who hits the women, but we are looking at the issue for the wrong perspective. Instead of us looking it as a "Man hitting a women and that's wrong" we should look at it as "A man is viewing his significant other as an object". When a man hit his S/O, he is saying "I can do this because you're not a person, you're my property" That is why he gets away with it. Maybe if we stop looking at it as a "Man hitting a women" and start looking at is as "She's my property" we can help the man more. A man going to jail for hitting a women doesn't help him, getting a man into counseling, we can do more good.
Maybe that is how I see the world. Then again, I'm a moron, what do I know.
Wednesday, January 26, 2011
So what do I do now?
From what I know about blogs and the like, I know it's all about speaking your mind and saying what people want to hear. I do have a few things I would love to talk about, but I'm not sure what to put down. I can talk about politics, religion, sports, school, my love life (oxymoronic I know), or just ramble about the latest fad and what not. I'll just end up talking about well......nothing. I know most end up being read and thrown away like a post it note or ignored by people. Would I like people to read my blog, sure. Will they......all signs point to NO. People tend not to listen to me outside anyways, why listen to me here (or whatever you consider "listening to me" is on the world of the interweb) At the end of the day, I'm just going to write stuff and have that fleeting hope that 5 people will read it and go on with their day. Or it can be put aside like a toy on Christmas two months later.
Or maybe this is the sad attempt to have people read my blog and pretend to care.
Worst sales pitch..EVER!
Or maybe this is the sad attempt to have people read my blog and pretend to care.
Worst sales pitch..EVER!
Sunday, January 23, 2011
I got it up and running, I migh as well use it.
So I had to do a blog for my class. So be it, I was debating on whether or not to do a blog anyways. I wanted to speak my mind on topics but it might fall on deaf ears, or no one would care and it would be a situation of "If a tree falls in the forest........" At the end of it, I might as well go with this and I'll just spill my guts. Or it can just fall flat and I'll look like an idiot (not the first time, not the last time).
Let's see where this takes us, shall we.......
Let's see where this takes us, shall we.......
Saturday, January 22, 2011
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Greetings and Salutations
My name is Nestor Velasquez. I am a student at Davenport University. This blog is set up per a requirement for my ENGL 311 class, but perhaps it may be used in the future in case I have a need to write something worthwhile. Thank you for reading.
My name is Nestor Velasquez. I am a student at Davenport University. This blog is set up per a requirement for my ENGL 311 class, but perhaps it may be used in the future in case I have a need to write something worthwhile. Thank you for reading.
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